Recently, my youth group did series on relationships.
Really, the whole six part series was great and I gleaned a ton from
it. The fifth sermon
really hit home for me, though. It was titled "Escaping the People Pleasing Trap."
People pleasing is
something that I think, if we're honest, we all deal with. We want others to
like us. We want to please them and make them happy. We never want to let them
down. But it's a grave mistake to try and please everyone.
Here are five ways that
the people pleasing trap can hurt you:
1) It causes you to
miss God's purpose for you. When you're focused on other people, you can't
focus on what God has for you as an individual. Instead, you're constantly
trying to put all of your efforts into people you're trying to please, living
in constant fear that you won't measure up. Proverbs 29:25 says,
"The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is
safe." When you're trying to keep everyone happy, you become a clone.
That's not what God wants for you. He has a unique, wonderful purpose for you.
2) It keeps you from growing in
your faith. If you're all wrapped up in what other people think of you, you're
looking for glory from other people. John
5:44 states, "How can you believe, when you receive glory from one another
and do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?" Others' glory is
unnecessary. We only need God's approval.
3) It leads you to sin. People
pleasing leads to following the crowd- it leads to conformity. According to Exodus
23:2, “Do not follow the crowd in doing wrong. When
you give testimony in a lawsuit, do not pervert justice by siding with the
crowd."
4) It makes you a hypocrite. When
you're trying to be everything to everyone, you start putting on masks, using
different expressions for different friends, telling different lies to each
social group you hang around with. It's easy to forget who you told what. Luke
16:15 says, "He said
to them, ‘You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of others,
but God knows your hearts. What people value highly is detestable in God’s
sight.’”
5) It silences your voice. John 7:12-13
describes a time when people were gossiping about Jesus. "Among the crowds
there was widespread whispering about him. Some said, ‘He is a good man.’ Others replied, ‘No, he deceives the
people.’ But no one would say anything publicly about him
for fear of the leaders."
Guys, (and girls, of course) it's
time to stop following the crowd. Stop trying to make everyone happy. Take the
words of Romans 12:2 to heart: "Do not conform to
the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing
and perfect will."
-To
Be Continued-
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